The Reconciliationist is a specially trained Family Law Attorney working with couples considering divorce from the standpoint of the possibility of a total reconciliation…

If the marriage cannot be saved, help is given to conscientiously resolve the family's personal and legal issues in a positive, humane and cost sparing way.

Services include:

• Dispute Resolution
• Couple Communication
• Parent Counseling
• Financial & Scenario Planning

A Fresh Approach to Solving One of Our Oldest Challenges:

What is a Reconciliationist?

A Reconciliationist is a practicing Family Law Attorney, professionally prepared to reconcile domestic disputes in a non-adversarial manner and without Court intervention. Work is kept strictly confidential. Impartiality is guaranteed.

How is the Work Accomplished?

The parties meet with the Reconciliationist, individually and together. Both issue-specific and generalized problem solving and communications strategies are transferred through explanation, behavior modeling and hands-on coaching. Issues dividing the couple are identified, analyzed and collaboratively solved.

Will this Save Our Marriage?

We begin with the constructive pre-supposition that most issues will be successfully reconciled, and that the learning and problem solving accomplished during the process could very well result in the positive continuation of the marriage. By learning to creatively work through today's issues and relationship concerns, the parties exit the engagement empowered to apply their new skill sets to future developments and challenges.

How Do We Pay for the Service?

One (1) hour units of work are paid for, in advance, in blocks of four (4) units at a time.
Payment is made "as you go."

Mediation is Not the Answer:

How is This Approach Different Than Mediation?

1) Most divorce mediation begins with the underlying premise of inevitable divorce. The Progressive ® approach targets complete or substantial reconciliation.

2) In New Jersey, mediators are not required to be attorneys. It would be unlawful for non-attorney mediators to offer legal advice. Yet, legal insight is an indispensable, reality-based ingredient to solving conflicts that could possibly result in divorce.

3) Mediation can be an aggravating waste of time and money... should it fail. The Progressive ® model is geared toward reconciling the important issues, while preparing for an economically feasible and non-adversarial progression through the legal system - in the event that a complete reconciliation is not possible.

When Marriages Can't Be Saved:

We Both Already Know that Divorce is Inevitable. Why Should We Choose an Approach Based Upon Reconciliation?

From a problem solving standpoint, the prospect of reconciliation is a far better starting point than one which pre-supposes certain divorce. Negotiations are always more fruitful where there is the likelihood of a continuing relationship.

If We Know We are Headed for Divorce, Why Wouldn't We Just Hire Our Own Attorneys from the Outset?

You would definitely be in the majority if you did. And how many people have you heard raving about what a wonderful experience their divorce was? Or how little it cost them?

The legal system is an adversarial one. It is likely that you did not enter your marriage to fight, argue and debate… all of which are forms of violence. Entry into a primarily adversarial system for the purpose of resolving family disputes is like negotiating in a boxing ring. The Progressive ® model is the key to cost containment, achieving positive outcomes and minimizing distress. We aim for cooperation, not contention.